Voices from the Afterschool Field on Self-Care (Part 1)

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By Sam Piha

We interviewed several afterschool leaders on the importance and benefits of youth worker self-care. Below are their responses. This blog is an excerpt from our recently released briefing paper entitled, "Self-Care for Youth Workers."

Q: Why should youth workers engage in self-care?

(AB): Positive relationships are key to health, school-engagement, and community. As youth workers and educators, we take care of the needs of students and families every day, but we often overlook our own self-care in the process. Additionally, there are many stressors in life that can be experienced on a daily basis, and it is well-known that stress can also be seen as contagious, if I’m having a bad day, my mood can contribute to you also having a bad day. Therefore, engaging in self-care in order to combat the effects of stress by releasing the stress in order to reset the body by engaging in self-care, it’s a way in order to refill your own cup! 



(SS): In order to give to others in healthy ways, youth workers need to remember to give first to ourselves. Only then can we give from the overflow. We take care of ourselves so we can take care of each other.

As we take good care of ourselves and fill our own cup, giving becomes an expression or act of compassionate service. We can give of the natural overflow. Acts of service to others, it has been said, are the highest form of loving. It is the nature of the unconditionally loving heart, a growth heartset,

to give. The joy of giving is a wonderful gift youth workers give ourselves. It starts however with a genuine necessity to taking care of ourselves. Self-care, rather than being a self-centered or indulgent practice, is truly the essential ingredient that supports our mental health and resilience allowing us to be more fully available for our young people.

 

As healthy, authentic role models, youth workers then can deeply assist our students as they navigate and strengthen their positive emotional and mental health. Our attention to our self-care is at the core.

 

(LR): Everyone needs self-care. We live in a society that expects us to push so hard with a disregard for ourselves, and this has so many negative results – i.e. mental health challenges, physical health issues, etc. Stress (unmanaged) is a major killer.

(LP): The pandemic elevated internal and external stresses that have increased mental health issues among our youth and peers. During this crisis, youth workers where on the front lines providing comprehensive services to meet the diverse needs of the communities and youth they serve. This created undo stress on youth workers, causing many to seek help for themselves. In our afterschool program, we mobilized our resources to ensure that staff had opportunities to step away and take care of themselves. We established extended lunches by eating outside to share and reflect on what issues and concerns that they needed assistance with. Staff become their support group through the pandemic.

 

Q: What have you seen are the benefits of self-care?

(AB): Self-care is the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health. Since a lot of us may have experienced some form of trauma, there are great benefits to identifying trauma and dealing with it through self-care techniques. For example, simply taking the time to participate in an artistic pursuit can be seen as self-care and make the heart rejoice! Self-care can help to combat anxiety, hopelessness or lack of motivation. There is indeed an interconnectedness of stress, self-care, and well-being. 

 

(SS): Educators and youth workers, as did many, went through a tremendously tough time during and post pandemic. The trauma, that they personally experienced along with the secondary trauma from working with their students who in turn were traumatized, caused great stress. It impacted their lives and their ability to truly give to their students in ways that the most wanted to. Self-care was a key ingredient for healing themselves and restoring their resiliency, fortitude, and commitment.

 

(LR): In our society, self-care is often branded as getting a mani-pedi or something like that. And while this is nice and all, I think self-care with depth are things like therapy, boundaries, self-reflection, etc...things that can help us navigate our lives and the world around us better – this is where I’ve personally experienced a true release and recovery. And with that in mind, these types of practices – and even things like exercise and healthy eating, are ways that we take time to invest in ourselves with the intention of a more restorative and balanced life. When we are making shifts like this – major shifts in habits/perspective, the results are transformative. We are able to engage in the world differently, feel differently in our day to day, and are able to support others better.

(LP): Staff are centered, rested, and focused to engage with youth. In many Indigenous communities, self-care is part of being “connected” – to self, to nature and to your community. We follow that same philosophy with our staff about being connected and understanding that we are related to everything, like a web. If one strand of the web breaks if effects everything else – it becomes unbalanced, you lose your way (focus). Self-care is a part of that balance of being connected.