Showing posts with label how to talk with kids. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to talk with kids. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

How to Help Kids Cope with ICE Deportation Raids During The Summer

Source: EdSource, Ian Kapsalis/ The Express

Summer can be a difficult time for kids as schools close down. But, have we thought that how this is especially true for those with undocumented family members?  This blog contains excerpts from How to help kids cope with ongoing ICE raids, deportations | Quick Guide written by Vani Sanganeria for EdSource. To view this original publication, click here.

“Fears remain unabated for both children of immigrants and their friends, as federal immigration agents in California continue to detain, arrest and deport residents, in what community members say has become an indefinite fixture of the Trump administration.” 

Vani Sanganeria explains:



  • With school out for the summer, some students may no longer have access to crucial support and services available during the academic school year, as fear and anxiety rise in their communities from ongoing immigration raids.
  • The absence of school-based services often leads to worsening mental health for students during the summer.
  • During the summer, unstructured routine, social isolation and increased social media use can exacerbate feelings of sadness and fear. Also, children are much more likely to internalize traumatic events like raids on social media or outside of school, often in isolation and lacking the safe environment of a classroom to talk through their feelings about the day’s news.  
  • Data indicate a spike in both substance use and feelings of sadness among adolescents during the summer, which worsens in part due to unstructured routine, increased isolation and increased social media use.

“Children are already seeing masked individuals with weapons coming into the communities, tackling people and taking them away and putting them into vehicles. We have to acknowledge that some very scary things are happening in all of our communities — by lying about the magnitude of this, we may be risking our trust with our children in the future.” – Ahmanise Sanati, school social worker in Los Angeles 

Source: www.pexels.com

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR PARENTS
According to Marta Melendez, a social worker with LAUSD, families can prepare for scenarios like an ICE raid, detention or deportation by preemptively building their and their child’s mental health tool kit, similar to an emergency plan. 

“Families can take steps to support their child’s mental health and prepare for what experts are calling a child welfare and human rights crisis.”

  • Research shows that even basic mindfulness interventions can mitigate the short- and long-term negative effects of stress and trauma, and these techniques, when taught bilingually, are especially effective for populations such as the Latino community. 
  • Prioritize something that is a positive outlet for the child, whether they like to play sports, to write about their feelings, draw about their feelings, sing about their feelings, if they want to dance about their feelings — make sure that they have a way of processing all the emotions that they are experiencing.
  • Talk through your child’s feelings.

“One way to validate a child who is afraid is by letting them know that their family will be ready for a worst-case scenario.” - Marta Melendez, a social worker with LAUSD.

  • To create a sense of normalcy for children, Melendez said families should do their best to maintain healthy routines and hobbies during the summer, especially those that promote social connection with their peers.
  • Prepare for emergencies. 
  • Create a childcare plan.
  • Find remote mental health support for your child. 
  • Practice healthy coping skills as a family.

Previous LIAS Blogs on this topic can be viewed here

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Monday, May 5, 2025

Deportation: How to Talk with Your Kids and Staff Education and Training

Source: www.pexels.com

By Sam Piha

Many afterschool programs serve immigrant families. Many of these families have fears about the latest deportation campaign and how best to handle themselves, should ICE show up. These fears are shared by children and may be expressed at home or in the afterschool program. This raises the question of how best to talk with kids about their fears. It may be best to communicate with adult family members on how this is being dealt with within the family and share the advice of this blog.

According to Google AI, “When talking to children about the possibility of deportation, be honest and age-appropriate, reassure them of your love and support, and focus on their family's plan to stay safe and together. Here's a more detailed guide:

1. Explain in Simple Terms:

  • Use clear language: Avoid legal jargon or complex terms. Explain what "deportation" means in a way they can understand, such as "being sent back to another country". 
  • Focus on the facts: Don't exaggerate or scare them with unnecessary details. Stick to the information you know and can control. 
  • Answer their questions honestly: If they ask about specific scenarios, answer them directly and truthfully, but avoid overwhelming them with details. 

 2. Reassure and Comfort:

  • Emphasize your love and support: Let them know that you love them very much and that you will do everything you can to keep them safe and together.
  • Focus on your plan: Explain that you have a plan in place and are taking steps to ensure your family's safety and well-being.
  • Validate their feelings: Acknowledge that they might be feeling scared, worried, or sad, and let them know it's okay to have those feelings. 

3. Focus on the Positive:

  • Emphasize your strengths: Talk about your family's strengths and resilience. Remind them that you are a team and that you will get through this together.
  • Highlight positive aspects of your community: Talk about the resources and support systems available to you and your family, such as community organizations, friends, and family members.
  • Focus on the future: Talk about your hopes and dreams for the future and how you will work together to achieve them.” [i]

Source: www.pexels.com

Staff Education and Training

Because the advice for immigrant families can be very complicated, we recommend that afterschool staff invite a local immigrant advocacy organization to train staff and parents. We also recommend that program leaders confer with school leaders, as the district may have immigration policies and content experts that can also train staff and parents.  


For a full briefing paper on countering the threat of deportation, click here.

END NOTES:
[i] Google AI, How to Talk With Kids About Deportation

Tuesday, March 22, 2022

The War in Ukraine and Afterschool

Source: How to Talk to Kids About the War in Ukraine:
4 Answers & Tools Parents Need, From a Parenting Educator
By Sam Piha
The coverage of the Russian invasion of Ukraine has dominated TV and social media, resulting in horrific images of buildings exploding in fire, families bloodied and injured from missile attacks, and fearful children and parents attempting to flee to safety. This is being viewed by children and teenagers as well as adults. 

Foundation to every afterschool program is promoting a sense of emotional safety and reliable information. We believe this includes how to talk to kids about war and how to decipher real vs. fake news. Below we offer some thoughts and resources to assist afterschool leaders. 

Speaking With Kids About the Ukraine War

Below are some tips on how to discuss the Ukraine war:
  • First and foremost, educate yourself on Ukraine’s history and the war itself (there are good articles and videos on the internet- be sure they are reliable) and process your emotions first.
  • Consider the developmental and age levels of your youth.
  • Ask what your children have heard already?  How did that make them feel?
  • Where did they get this info?
  • Validate feelings while stressing safety.
  • Ask them if they have any questions about what is going on. 
  • Respond with honest reassurance & don't discount fears. 
  • Encourage youth to feel a sense of agency about how they can make a difference. 
  • Avoid exposure to graphic images & repetitive media coverage. 
  • Recognize that some children may be at greater risk of distress (especially true of youth who have experienced trauma or a family history of fleeing danger).
Additional Resources: 
(Note: Some of these resources are written for family members and would serve as a good handout.)

Source: New York Times
Social Media

The Russian invasion of Ukraine has also brought with it a deluge of disinformation and misinformation, and fabricated news, images, and video, via social media platforms. 

One big difference with the war in Ukraine is how prominent TikTok has suddenly become in spreading information via video—both real and fake. TikTok is a major source for news for teens and young adults.” - Eisha Buch, Common Sense Media 


Addressing Disinformation

If the Russia-Ukraine conflict is the world’s first TikTok war, then your youth may be unwittingly taking in a lot of mis- and disinformation. This article, “TikTok Is Gripped by the Violence and Misinformation of Ukraine War,” might be a useful starting point for raising the topic with them, perhaps after first asking students to share some of what they know — or think they know — about the war from their social media feeds.
- New York Times

Abigail Gewirtz, author of How to Talk with Kids About Scary News, advises, “You start by talking about social media. In times of war and threat, social media can be an incredibly valuable tool for people who don’t have access to regular news, like those in Ukraine, to be able to communicate with others. However, as we all know, social media can be a very dangerous source of misinformation, and our kids are vulnerable to that misinformation because they don’t know what’s fact and what’s fiction...and sometimes we don’t either. It’s really important for parents of kids of all ages to help children understand that there is fact and there is hearsay—and for them always to come to you to check the facts.

Additional Resources:
One way to support kids to help them feel part of the solution is by offering opportunities to express support or “help”. Obviously, any activities should be aligned with the age of the participants. For example, youth could:
  • Create pictures or posters to express support or educate others. 
  • Look for age-appropriate information together.
  • Do projects to raise money for charities supporting Ukraine.
  • Send pictures or letters to refugee families.
  • Middle- and high-schoolers might participate in a peaceful demonstration of support for Ukraine.
  • Families can also join together to attend a local Ukrainian vigil or send money to charitable organizations.
A lot of children want to help—and it’s important to provide ways for them to do so in an age-appropriate way…Turn the problems into ‘what can I do?’ The healthiest thing that helps people cope is action.- Mary Alvord, PhD, Founder of Resilience Across Borders

Additional Resources:
Source: #KidsDrawPeace4Ukraine


Bias, Race and Discrimination 

Source: www.cnn.com

Some have criticized certain reporting on Ukraine as racist and called attention to story framing and word choices that portray 'the invasion as the sort of thing that happens in poor countries, but not in Europe.' Even just the sheer amount of coverage, critics say, reveals a double standard in how Western media has covered this war compared to conflicts in other parts of the world. - The Sift: An educator's guide to the week in news literacy, March 21, 2022

It is important to know that reaction to the war in Ukraine is not without controversy. Many feel that the crisis and war in Syria did not attract the same worldwide support. Also, there were reports that people of color did not receive the same treatment while attempting to flee the violence in Ukraine. 

If we decide to help Ukrainians in their desperate time of need because they happen to look like 'us' or dress like 'us' or pray like 'us,' or if we reserve our help exclusively for them while denying the same help to others, then we have not only chosen the wrong reasons to support another human being. We have also, and I’m choosing these words carefully, shown ourselves as giving up on civilization and opting for barbarism instead ... The BBC interviewed a former deputy prosecutor general of Ukraine, who told the network: “It’s very emotional for me because I see European people with blue eyes and blond hair … being killed every day. - Moustafa Bayoumi, The Guardian

Additional Resources:

How to Help Kids Understand and Manage Their Emotions

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